Our special guest today is Marilyn Sutherland, a renowned author and writer of “Why Did You Load The Dishwasher Like That?” She is not only a prolific writer but also a Transformational Relationship and Communication Coach. Marilyn’s qualifications include training in Presence-Based Coaching and certification as a Positive Intelligence Coach and a Certified Sourced Leader.
During our conversation, Marilyn delved into the transformation from the Saboteur to the Sage mindset. She emphasized the stark contrast between these two states of being. Sage mode brings about peace and calmness, while Saboteur mode tends to induce anxiety, stress, and hypervigilance. Marilyn aptly noted, “We all judge ourselves, others, and circumstances.”
Marilyn took us on a detailed exploration of the Saboteur traits, which encompass characteristics such as being a Controller, Hyperachiever, Restless, Stickler, Pleaser, Hypervigilant, Avoider, Victim, and Hyperrational. In contrast, Sage’s traits are marked by empathy, exploration, innovation, navigation, and activation.
Marilyn passionately discussed the power of retraining our brains to respond in Sage mode, highlighting the significant positive impact this shift can have on our lives and the lives of those around us.
Furthermore, Marilyn shared valuable insights about finding blessings in circumstances and the happiness that gratitude can bring. 📌She encouraged the audience to reflect on the question, “To survive and succeed, I should _______?” and invited everyone to email their answers to her.
For those interested in Marilyn’s services, she offers a range of options available on her website. To get a deeper understanding of your own Saboteur tendencies, Marilyn suggested taking a free Saboteur quiz test, which can be accessed at https://assessment.positiveintelligence.com/saboteur/instructions. Marilyn even extended a generous offer to those who mention hearing about her on Chatting with Betsy—a free clarity call to help you decide whether you’d like to work with her.
Providing the audio interview with Betsy and Marilyn on the power of retraining our brain: